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And I thought someone here might be able/willing to help.
The situation: my boyfriend, Simon, is the most wonderful man I have ever met, and I love him very very much. Simon, unfortunately, has a mother who treats him like crap, and is constantly upsetting him. For example, tonight he went to see her and she had a massive go at him because he'd copied some CDs for her, but hadn't done an extra copy like she'd wanted. She then started to have a go at him about how he never makes time for her (completely untrue, Simon spends far more time with his family than most people do) and a variety of other nasty abusive things and made him cry. She then apparently told him not to tell me about the argument because I'll just take his side.
Now, this sort of thing is a very common occurence, he always sees her on a sunday and more often than not she will be horrible to him and he'll go home upset. It makes me so ANGRY as he's so wonderful, he's the kindest gentlest of men, and I hate that she's so horrible to him. He's very sensitive, and he hates arguing with anyone, so when she goes off on one at him it really upsets him.
I was wondering if anyone had any advice as to how to deal with the situation? If I was him, I would tell her that if she's not going to treat me with respect I wouldn't see her for a while until she was prepared to. But he won't do that, he kept on saying 'she's my mum'. But I don't think that gives her the right to be horrible to him. I don't think it's fair that he continues to be treated like this...and I suspect that if he continues to put up with it, she'll keep on doing it. My parents have always been very supportive and loving, so I have never had to deal with this sort of thing personally, but I know I wouldn't put up with being treated the way she treats him by my parents. No-one needs to be treated like that.
Has anyone been in a similar situation at all? If so, I'd really appreciate some advice...even from people who haven't, I'd really value knowing what people think. Simon doesn;t want me to get involved as he wants his mum to like me, and at the moment she does. But I'm not prepared to let her treat him like this without saying anything just for the sake of that - my boyfriend is far more important to me than my relationship with her. However, I am also aware I'll have to put up with the woman for the foreseeable future so obviously don't want to make the situation worse for anyone. I also don't want to upset him by anything I do. But this sort of thing keeps on happening, and it makes me so upset to see him upset when he's so wonderful and only tries his best to make everyone happy.
Does anyone have any advice as to what I, or he, should do? I'd really appreciate it.
Thanks guys :-)
Eri
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(VISITOR) AUTHOR'S NAME
Eri
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13 october 2008, 08:55:22
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