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I mean honestly. Next time you're in a situation like this, try acting like you're not 100% in the right and that everyone else is just being a jerk. Maybe they are, but the attitude you seem to meet these situations with only exascerbates them.
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I haven't acted that way. I'm polite and light voiced, all conversation-like. Now, when I sound like he did, then I'm being confrontational.
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"Hey! This lady was giving you a hook up!"
Instead of "I know, and I thanked her for it." try "yes, and it's much appreciated, but unfortunately it didn't work."
Saying "I know" sounds arrogant.
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Yeah, well, treating me like I'm fresh out of boot camp and acting like I don't know any better, so I must be taught a lesson sounds pretty damn arrogant, too.
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"You don't come in here and make demands!"
Instead of "Name one that I've made." which is confrontational, try "I didn't mean to demand anything, I was simply making a request."
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What can I say? I like to stick up for myself.
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"You said, 'Just have the manager meet me outside my room.'"
"No, I said, 'Just have the manager meet me outside my room, please.' That's not a demand."
Yes it is. I don't care if you've tacked "please" on the end, the rest of that setence is a demand. "could/would it be possible for the manager to meet me outside my room please?" would be a request. And again, your tone is confrontational.
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No it's not. As Ive stated before, my tone was light and conversationy. There were no under currents of attitude. When you say something like that with a pleasant, non-cofrontational voice, and tack on the "please" it's a request, not a demand. And I really won't say could/would because I already know that the answer is yes. I don't believe in wasting time asking questions when I know what the answer is. That hinders progress.
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"You're suppose to carry your ID on you at all times, according to the UCMJ [Uniform Code of Military Justice], right?"
"I'm suppose to have my wallet on me at all times, too."
Yes, smart alec responses are definitely the way to go when you're in an argument with a superior who has something you need. Perhaps next time try "my ID's in my wallet, along with my keycard."
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He was arguing. I was conversating. Besides, ask a smartass question, get a smartass answer. He wasn't exactly impressing me with his bitching.
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It takes two to tango you know.
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And no doubt I really got to him since I refused to allow him to elevate the thing to an official argument.
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AUTHOR OF THIS MESSAGE
Robwood
MESSAGE TIMESTAMP
30 january 2006, 03:06:09
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