What a fantastic coulmn. I found myself nodding in agreement to pretty much all of it!I moved here from Australia to be with my Dutch boyfriend. I have been here now for 5 months and I'm struggling in a big way. I was so confident that this would be an easy thing to do that I didn't plan very well at all. I am studying via distance education to finish my degree through an Australian uni and I decided to search for work once I got here. I'm finding it impossible to get work because my Dutch isn't good enough. So the fact that I am not working AND I'm studying from home means that I am not meeting people.I have met some of my boyfriend's friends, but their girlfriends don't seem too interested in forming friendships with me. I've expressed interest in catching up with them but it goes no further than that.I need some expat friends badly!!!